By H.Baloch 
People claim that money makes the world go round. Depending on this, we must survive and advance in life. But what happens when someone waves this as a weapon against you? In the case of individuals who escape narcissistic relationships and financial abuse, the financial fallout may be crushing. Many are still gathering the pieces of a broken life financially and emotionally.
Leftover Finance Chaos
Hidden costs exist in narcissistic partnerships. Narcissists use money to dominate, manipulate, and ultimately leave their spouses almost empty. Tragic stories of families losing their houses, bank accounts being dry, and retirement goals becoming unreachable are frequently observed in the news.
Some were fortunate enough to leave before everything vanished. Some people, sadly, lost almost everything. I’ve heard numerous stories from people who thought they had secured a secure financial future, only to witness it disappear into the grasp of a narcissistic spouse. Then there is child support, which narcissists manage to escape with great ease.They will purchase a new automobile before they even consider aiding their children. After divorcing these poisonous partnerships, too many people deal with a terrible reality.
Starting with nothing
Rebuilding from such a financial disaster is not simple. Imagine starting over with nothing, as if you were running a race with a disability. Many survivors of narcissistic relationships have experienced this firsthand. Despite the challenges, they continue to persevere. Even if the chances appear stacked against them, they gather the will to advance.
Getting aid is among the toughest tasks. Many survivors are fiercely independent; hence, the concept of depending on others might seem like another blow to their already damaged self-esteem. However, at this point in time, assistance is absolutely essential. Every bit of assistance, from family and friends to legal support to even community resources, can make a difference.
Simultaneously, survivors have to change their expectations. Adopting a more humble way of life can be challenging after years of reinforcement that regard success or love with material objects. But normally, the secret to financial recovery is a change of perspective. To be happy, your children do not need the newest devices or fashionable items. They need your love, your presence, and the hope that despite everything, things will turn around.
Less money, greater significance
Rebuilding after financial abuse goes beyond just increasing income. It involves redefining what truly matters. Letting go of the urge to “keep up with the Joneses” may be rather relieving when you have spent years attempting to maintain appearances.
Beautiful trips or costly presents do not create memories. The love and connection you share with the people who hold the greatest significance in your life shape your memories. I have heard stories of families who, in their most trying circumstances, formed the sweetest memories with just the most basic things—a handmade supper, a stroll around the neighborhood, or simply a sincere discussion.
One tale that always sticks out is about a family that only had a crumpled paper bag and one apple to share for Christmas. That apple became their special year’s gift. Despite its small size, the love shared at the table made this Christmas one of their favorites. It serves as a reminder that our pleasure is defined by our love and relationships with people, not by money.
Then, with strength and hope, move forward.
Even if you’ve been abused financially, do not value yourself based on your money. Though the recovery path is long and requires sacrifice, every action you take advances you. You have the will to piecemeal reconstruct your life.
Seek support from those who are concerned about you and, most importantly, have confidence in your capacity to build a new future when assistance gets attainable. Money is essential, despite the fact that it is not everything. It is the love, courage, and hope that you will retain to assist in the reconstruction of your life following a narcissistic relationship that truly matters.